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6 Aug 2014

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When we found out we we're having another girl, I have to admit, I was surprised. This pregnancy felt so different (and easier) in the beginning. I dreamt the baby was a boy, and I grew up having a little brother. There was no real science behind my feelings other than I just assumed I'd have one of each some day, and I wanted the experience of knowing what it was like to raise both a girl and a boy. When we found out that our newest baby would be a girl, I immediately felt so excited for Ruby to experience that sisterly bond that I never knew about. But I was worried that Bob would be disappointed. We've always planned to have two kids and said no matter what, we'd be happy with just two. I thought that in the back of his head, he'd feel like he was missing out by not having a son. This was his response when I asked him, truly, if he was okay with not having a baby boy...

Bob first said that all he really hoped for was a healthy baby. I know everyone says that and most people really mean it, but his version of that response goes deeper. In his job, he sees children everyday born with birth defects, scoliosis, and other physical issues that they have no control over. He told me that he sees kids that are born in such unfortunate circumstances and to have a child that doesn't have to go through surgeries, years of medication, or physical limitations, that is all he wanted—regardless of gender. And when people say, "Don't you want to just try for a boy?" or "But your family name won't live on", his response is simply, "I am equal parts my mom and my dad. Just because I happen to have my dad's last name doesn't mean that I'm not also continuing my mom's family line. Our daughters will continue our family name (both your side and my side) and represent our family just the same as a son would."

After knowing he was genuinely happy (and me joking endlessly about he's bound to become more sensitive now), I was able to start imagining my life as a mother of two girls. I'm pretty excited to see Ruby bond with a sibling...but especially so with her little sister. She talks to my belly everyday and tells the baby all the things she wants to do when the baby finally arrives. I hear it's an amazing closeness that can't be described unless you have sisters, and I'm looking forward to watching that unfold...

If you grew up with sisters or if you have girls of your own, what am I in for? Sisters who are best friends (hopefully)? Or a lifetime of emotions and drama? (Or maybe a little bit of both...)

{Photo by Oh Bob. Our dresses by Thief & Bandit.}

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