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this is what 10 years of marriage looks like... 23 Sep 2016

Cho Family Prom

Cho Family Wedding

Cho Family

In 1996 (when I was 17), I met this guy that I thought was a total slacker. We went to his Senior Prom together as friends. I thought we'd date for a few months and then he'd go off to college and that would be it. After dating (for real) soon after the prom and having a long-distance relationship for most of our early adulthood, 10 years later, in 2006, we got married. And 10 years after that...here we are living in Los Angeles with our two girls. I know I cut out a lot of the in-between stuff because I don't want to bore you.

But I seriously never thought I'd date this guy, have him turn into my best friend, and then still be with him 20 years later. I'll try and keep this anniversary post short and not too sappy. But in celebration of my 10 year anniversary with my husband, Bob, today, here are 10 things I've learned in my 10 years of marriage:

1. The person that you are married to should make you want to be a better person. They should lift you up when you're low, make you laugh when you're having a bad day, make fun of you when you need to be made fun of, and believe in you more than anyone else.

2. Marriage is always a work in progress and you have to work at it to make it progress.

3. You'll never agree on everything. But you should see eye-to-eye on most things.

4. If your spouse had an annoying habit when you first started dating, chances are, they'll still have it 20, 30, 40 years later. And you just need to be okay with it. And love them for it. Or laugh at them for it.

5. You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run. (Ok, I borrowed that from Kenny Rogers, but it's true.)

6. Marriage is loving someone so incredibly much and more than anyone else. But it's also being annoyed and infuriated with them more than you could be with anyone else.

7. Having butterflies in your stomach is a good thing.

8. Make time for each other even when your kids feel like your new priority. Don't forget to keep nurturing the relationship that made those kids in the first place.

9. It's a good sign when you can be independent and do your own things separately, but you're stronger (and have more fun) when you're together.

10. If you can fart in front of your spouse and not feel embarrassed, you're on your way to eternal happiness.

{Wedding photo by Karen Wise, family photo by Katherine Rose}

oh joy is 11 years old! 16 Sep 2016

oh joy is 11!

11 years ago, I started a blog called "Oh Joy" just for fun. I thought maybe some of my friends and my mom might read it. 2005 were the early days of blogging and the internet. It was before there were a ton of social media sites, and it was before anyone was worried about their personal brand. I didn't think that any real people—people that I didn't know in real life—would care about anything I had to say. Thank goodness I was wrong. Having this tiny place on the internet to share my vision and ideas with you has brought me so much inspiration, so much joy, and such a sense of community from those of you that I have never met.

I always say that the internet allows regular people like you and me who want to say something or share something to share their view and voice with the world. It gives us all an opportunity. Starting this blog completely changed the direction of my career from something very planned into something completely different, unplanned and a mix of work that I never expected to be able to do, but am completely grateful for. 

As we reach 11 years of Oh Joy this month, I wanted to say thank you for following along here for however long or short you have been. Your support and love means the world.

P.S. Last year, I did a recap of the previous 10 years which was fun to look back on...

{Photos by Casey Brodleystyling by Julia Wester}

5 tips for traveling with kids... 14 Sep 2016

Ruby and Coco / Oh Joy

When we first traveled with Ruby as a baby, we had (no joke) 6-8 pieces of luggage that included a mix of travel crib, car seat, multiple suitcases, and more. Bob looked like a crazy person carrying way too much luggage while I carried a diaper bag plus our baby. Now as a family of 4, we take one suitcase that gets checked, one diaper bag that I carry, one kids backpack that Ruby carries, and one adult backpack that Bob carries for a week's worth of travel and that's it.

I know everyone has their suggestions for how they travel and some go more into detail on various aspects of travel (since there are so many!), but these are my go-to "in general" 5 simple and easy tips for traveling with kids...

1. Pack everything in one suitcase. If you make a goal of fitting your whole family's clothing into one suitcase, you'll fit everything into one suitcase (unless of course you have a family of eight in which case you might need two suitcases). What that means is we limit clothing to: two pairs of shoes per person (one pair gets worn), mix and match clothing and/or wash clothes mid-way through the trip if that's an option, and don't bring anything you can get at your final destination (see #2).

2. Rent/borrow what you can there (car seats, strollers, travel crib). Unless you are going to a city or country that doesn't have these items, borrow whatever you can to cut down on having to bring them yourself. We went from bringing all of the above and carrying what felt like 86 pieces of baggage to now renting car seats at the car rental place and using a stroller or travel crib that is offered at a house rental or hotel. That cuts out four pieces of luggage!

3. Order/buy things when you get there (groceries, diapers, anything you need in bulk). If you're traveling to anywhere in the US or a major city abroad, chances are they have most of your necessities there. If I'm traveling in the US and we're staying at a house rental (which I highly prefer over hotels with kids), the night before we arrive, I usually order groceries and any basics we need through something like Instacart. I set the delivery for after the kids go to bed on our first night and then by the morning, we have all our pantry staples as well as diapers/wipes, etc. And it saved space in my suitcase from having to fill it with diapers.

4. Plan one thing everyday but let the rest of the day be decided as you go. I always get recommendations ahead of time for anything I think we'd be interested in. The night before each day on vacation, Bob and I chat about a couple things we want to do, see what else is nearby, and then we focus on one main activity. I keep a couple of other things in the back of my head that are nearby if we have extra time. But with kids, we've learned not to map out the whole day because sometimes there's extra wiggle room that's nice to have and freedom to let the day take you where it will.

5. Break your rules (a little). If you're on the more strict side with schedules like I am, this is the one time it's okay for bedtime to be a little later or to let the kids watch an iPad out at dinner because you just want to have a peaceful meal at a nice restaurant. Cut yourself some slack and let the kids get to break your normal rules a little, too! It's a vacation!

What are your go-to tips?

{Photo by Bob Cho}

garden party inspiration... 12 Sep 2016

Anne Ten Donkelaar

Next month, both of my girls have birthdays (Ruby turns 5 and Coco turns 2). Rather than throwing two separate parties like I did last year, they're getting a joint birthday party this year. I am not sure if that's going to make things easier or twice as hard, but it's worth trying right? It's a Garden Party theme so I've been gathering lots of images like these for inspiration...

Eloise Corr Danch

Mother Magazine Cake

House That Lars Built / Balloon Arch

Oh Happy Day / Paper Flower Headbands

Have any of you been in or thrown a joint birthday party before? Any tips? I am planning for each kid to have their own cake so we can sing to each separately and especially for each one. That was a tip I heard from parents of twins who always have to share a birthday.

{Image sources: giant paper flowers Anne Ten DonkelaarEloise Corr Danch, Cake from Mother, balloon arch by House That Lars Built, and paper flower headbands by Oh Happy Day.}

remembering... 9 Sep 2016

Dallas Clayton print

15 years ago, I was living in New York City. I had graduated from college just a few months prior and was on my way to work and a month into my first job ever. I watched the twin tower attacks from a stalled N/R train on the Manhattan Bridge going from Brooklyn to downtown NY during my commute to work. What I initially thought was a really bad fire turned into an event that changed the world and my life forever. 

From that day forward, I told myself to be more grateful for what I have, to appreciate any and all parts of my life, and to hold those I love tighter than ever before. I continue to feel sadness for those that lost loved ones that day and hope they are living their lives now as best as they can.

This Sunday will be 15 years since the September 11th tragedy. Even though so much time has passed, it's an event I will never forget seeing and never forget how the city, the country, and the world came together slowly—but stronger than ever.

Whatever you're doing this weekend, hug/love/treasure whomever you're with and tell them you love them...

{Print by Dallas Clayton}

happy long weekend! 2 Sep 2016

Oh Joy for Target

Happy Friday guys! I've been in San Francisco this week on vacation eating my way through the city and getting some much needed hang time with my husband and kids. I hope you all have a great, LONG weekend full of that R&R we all need every so often.

P.S. What's left of our summer collection will soon be gone to make space for our new fall goods...so shop them while you can! Neon lights shown are sold out online but available in stores for one more week only. AND, our baby apparel is currently 25% off for Labor Day weekend!

{Photo by Target}

happy friday + voice lessons! 26 Aug 2016

Oh Joy

Ever since having my first baby almost five years ago, most of my "free time" has been spent doing things with and for the kids...or catching up on work while they are napping or sleeping. I haven't given myself that much time to do anything solely for myself for fun. As moms do, I prioritized everything else over myself and hence my workouts have been scarce, and I haven't learned any new skills in a long time.

Finally, this summer, I made myself a priority again. After my kids go to bed, I've been carving out at least one night a week to go play tennis (I know it's only once a week, but that's better than before!)...AND, last night I started taking VOICE LESSONS! I know, so random!

I love singing with and to my kids...but I'm pretty tone deaf. Just like anything else that you want to get better at, you take a lesson, learn how to improve, and practice. So, here I am, starting voice lessons, and we'll see how it goes. I probably won't quit my job (just yet) to become a pop star, but who knows... ;)

Oh, and happy weekend!

{Photo by Casey Brodley}

morning routine essentials... 24 Aug 2016

Morning Routine Essentials

Since you guys have been seeing my face up close and personal lately on Instagram stories and Snapchat, I've been getting questions about some of the products I use and wanted to do a post with some of my favorite morning essentials that help make me look somewhat awake during the day ;)

1. DryBar dry shampoo helps to keep my bangs and roots of my hair looking not greasy between washings.

2. I don't wear perfume but I love these light and fresh Anese elixirs especially on a hot day.

3. Nars orgasm blush is my must-have essential for adding some color to my face—it's the perfect pink with a nice flush of gold in there.

4. DryBar brush for my bangs (I usually just use my fingers to comb the rest of my hair so it doesn't get too fluffy).

5. I never believed in anti-aging serums until I tried this No 7 serum. It's made my skin softer and brighter, and I use it under my moisturizer.

6. For that pop of lip color, I like stain sticks because they're not too heavy while still adding color. My favorites are Glossier Generation G lip stain in Crush and Revlon Balm Stain in Sweetheart.

7. Finally (not shown), I currently have eyelash extensions which I love because it's a little bit of upkeep to make my daily routine so minimal—I don't wear any eye makeup at all unless I'm going out to a fancy evening dinner. These days, more and more people know how to apply natural-looking extensions that are safe and relatively low-maintenance. I won't go into this in too much detail unless you guys have questions about it but I had to mention it since it comes up a lot in direct messages and I did not want anyone to think my lashes just look like that naturally ;). 

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask!

happy friday + a busy week... 19 Aug 2016

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Oh Joy on Fuller House Set

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Normally I'm busy in the office, but this was an extra eventful week. I think that all my 80s and 90s childhood dreams came true when I got to watch a taping of Fuller House, tour the set, meet the cast (and see guest stars NKOTB!). I also did a little vintage shopping, got my boba on, and had a special visitor, Sarah Michelle Gellar! Happy weekend!

Ps. Regarding the debate of live story apps, for now, I'll be in IG Stories during the week and Snapchat on the weekends!

Instagram Stories vs. Snapchat... 5 Aug 2016

Instagram Stories vs. Snapchat

Since Tuesday, the Internet has been in a frenzy over the update to Instagram called Instagram Stories. If you haven't yet seen it, it's basically a way of adding un-edited photos and videos to a feed composed of a string of individual moments that your followers can view for only 24 hours. It's a very similar format to Snapchat—which has been the current favorite platform for teens and millennials...and a platform I just got into and liked after protesting it for so long.

So the question around town is...if you're into both Instagram and Snapchat, or if you follow people or brands on both platforms...what do you do now? Where do you check in on those more "real" tidbits of life or where do you post your own behind-the-scenes glimpses that you want to share?

I am still figuring out my own plan, but as a test for the past couple of days I have been sharing the same content I would normally share on Snapchat on Instagram Stories. That way I could test the waters and make an informed decision for myself and really know the differences from first-hand experience both as a sharer and a viewer. Here's my breakdown for you of the benefits of each...

Instagram Stories vs. Snapchat

Things I like better about Snapchat

1. Filters! While filters are not at all necessary for the sharing of information, they make people kick back and not take things too seriously. It makes it easier for those who are nervous about talking to their camera to cover their face with some funny filter. My husband always says that if the people who invented the technology for those filters worked in the medical field we might have a cure for cancer by now! Because, yes, the filters are VERY good.

2. It feels more intimate. Because you have to actively add someone's exact username to follow them on Snapchat, these are people you want to be following and not people that you found by "exploring" or people you added just cause you met them once at a party. Because of the intention behind these "follows", you're probably following less people here than on Instagram. And, these are people that you want to know more about. Those that follow you here may be a smaller number than on Instagram, but they are the ones who really want to see more of the real you.

3. Ability to send stories directly to someone. I don't actually use the messaging part of Snapchat where you can send a snap ONLY to a certain person (it's like the text messaging part of it), but this was the original intent of Snapchat and a feature that it still has over its new competitor. 

4. Thumbnails preview someone's story. When you're viewing your feed of recent stories, the thumbnail shown gives an indication of their last snap. It's a very small detail but I do like this ability to be able to know what I'm about to watch.

Instagram Stories vs. Snapchat

Things I like better about Instagram Stories

1. One less app to visit! While I have really been loving Snapchat lately, I can't say that I want one more thing to add to the social media cocktail that I consume and serve up on a daily basis.

2. Your current Instagram audience gets to see another side of you. A bit in contrast to the intimacy mentioned above about Snapchat, I find that people want to actually see more of the unedited side of people and brands on Instagram but don't either use Snapchat or forget to add them (since it's not an easy process to find people there). This gives you the chance to see their other side easily and it might actually help people (including myself) edit down who they follow.

3. Forward/Back controls when viewing stories. There are so many times I have viewed someone's Snapchat story only to want to go back to something I wanted to see again or screenshot. The "tap on right side of screen" to go forward and "tap on left side of screen" to go back thing is super useful.

4. You can see someone's "trailer". If you visit someone’s profile (either for the first time or to check up on their posts) and you can see their most recent story when their profile photo is outlined in color. It's a fun way to see what new people to your feed are up to or use it as a way to decide if you want to follow along. 

5. Easier to direct message. While I don't love having another message stream to maintain, I like that when there is a direct message stream, you can read the conversation beyond just the 24 hours. Sometimes you see messages in Snapchat too late or you didn't get to read it and it just disappears and then you have no idea the context of what was last said.

6. Usernames are the same. For me, sometimes I like to reference other people or brands in my stories so it's nice that if I mention someone's handle that it's clear it's the same as their Instagram handle.

Here's what I think will end up happening...

A. People who never got on Snapchat in the first place will start using Instagram Stories instead.

B. People who have been on Snapchat for a while and have a strong following will stay there.

C. Those who use the platforms for their brands might post on both but distinguish different content on each—perhaps more brand-related content on Instagram Stories and more personal content on Snapchat.

For me, I have yet to decide exactly what I'll do. But I'd love to hear what you guys think!

As viewers of content, which format do you prefer? Or if you are creating your own stories, which do you prefer?

P.S. A great article on TechCrunch about it.

{Photos by Casey Brodleystyling by Julia Wester}

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