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a staycation for mom...

A Staycation for Mom... / via Oh Joy!

Today, we're partnering with Home2 Suites by Hilton to show you how to celebrate the end of summer and the start of school for the person who really deserves a break...MOM! You've been in charge of your whole family's summer and school year and it's always GO GO GO for you. So today, I'm encouraging you to take a night for yourself to get away, leave the kids with your partner, and have a staycation! See our fun video below to get your Mom's Staycation started...

P.S. Home2 Suites is giving away a 2-night stay to one lucky winner! Head to their Instagram page to learn how to enter for a chance to win!

{Photo by Lily Glass, Video by Jenner Brown} 

*This post is brought to you in partnership with Hilton. All opinions are my own.

happy friday + helping YOU achieve your dreams...

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After my last two posts about working with a Life Coach (Why I Got One and Things I Learned That Could Help You, Too), I received so many great messages from you and how much you enjoyed reading about my experience. But also, there were so many of you asking more about how you could find one for yourself or those of you struggling with what the next step is in your life and career. I didn't go dishing out contact information for my own coach in the way that I would hand out referrals for everything else in my life because 1) I know she is very specific about the people she works with and 2) You have to be in a phase of life where you are ready to do the work that's involved.

However, there were a good number of you who were truly interested. So, my coach, Bonnie, offered a gift from her to me to you a session for THREE of you to have the chance to talk to her about anything you want. No strings attached. Just simply to gift the gift of guidance to a few of you. SO...if you're interested, please read this letter from my coach, Bonnie, below and how you can be selected...

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happy friday + my favorite podcast episodes lately...

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This photo has nothing to do with podcasts, but I didn't have a good "podcast" photo so here we go! ;) Lately, I've been enjoying car rides alone (which rarely happen in the first place) because I get to catch up on podcasts. Driving is truly the one time that I can really absorb a podcast because I'm forced not to do anything else but drive and listen. So, I wanted to share not just my favorite podcasts, but my favorite podcast episodes, lately...

Jen Gotch is OK Sometimes — Are We Addicted to Social Media?

Rise Together — You Have to Fail to Grow

Asian Americana — Boba/Bubble Tea (not my usual suggestions but fun if you like learning about the history of things)

Out of Line — Jihan Zencirli on Reinvention

And two that I happen to be in recently that I personally really love and hope you'll enjoy, too!

Awesome with Alison — Mastering Growth, Confidence and LIFE with Joy Cho!

Raising the Bar with Alli and Michael — Jump for Joy

Have a great weekend!

my first major meltdown in the home build process...

Oh Joy Builds a House: My First Major Meltdown

I have something to admit. Building a house has given me a LOT of stress and anxiety lately. I have been hesitant to talk about it because I feel so very grateful to be able to even do this project and to be able to share it with all of you. But after cry sessions in front of my husband, kids, and life coach recently, I realized there are things here that I wanted to share. So, here's the deal...

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things i learned through my life coach that might help you, too...

 

Things I Learned Through My Life Coach That Might Help You, Too!

A couple weeks ago, I talked in detail about why I got a Life Coach. Today, I wanted to share some nuggets of information from some of the notes I've taken from conversations we've had or books I've read that could help you, too, in some way. These are pulled from various moments over the last several months. But I love that on their own (without the context of why we discussed them), they still make so much sense....

1. Any type of growth takes time and faith and practice. Growth hurts just like when you're exercising, and you get sore from using new muscles. Sometimes it's uncomfortable to grow and change and become the real you. 

2. Even though growth can hurt, you shouldn't stop it from happening. If you were to try and help a butterfly transform, you might do more damage then good. It needs to transform on its own to become what it can truly be.

3. Sometimes, if you prevent an experience from happening to someone else (because you are worried you'll hurt their feelings or they may react poorly), you’re holding them back from learning a lesson on their own to experience those emotions. They needs those lessons for their own personal growth.

4. Making an agreement with someone is much stronger than an placing an expectation upon them. This holds true for partners in marriage, employees, co-workers, etc. Others love to keep agreements that they can co-author with you. Then if something you're hoping for isn't realistic for the other person, you’ll find out in advance why something won’t occur the way you want it to.

5. The owner mindset is taking whatever life gives me and welcoming it in. Owning it and deciding what I want to learn and create from it.

The victim mindset sees circumstance as all powerful. And often those circumstances look negative and emotionally overwhelming.

The truth is we human beings have an endless, innate capacity for optimism and creativity already built-in that we can choose to tap into anytime we want.

6. We have to remember that the goal of life is not to be busy, it is to be successful. Often, it is when we let go of our busyness that vision returns, inspiration appears, and a new level of true success is possible.

7. Success is about being original and being collaborative. Success is about connecting with others and finding your team. Even the most original thinkers need to have backing and support for their visions and ideas.

{Photo by Lily Glass.}

happy friday + why i got a life coach...

why i have a life coach... / via Oh Joy!

At the end of last year, I started questioning myself and my work and felt lost. Those feeling and events led me to working with a life coach which I wanted to share a bit more about with you today. I've talked a few times on Instagram Stories about working with one and originally planned to post all the things I've learned from working with mine. But I realized that so many of you have questions about it in general...Why did I get one? How do you find one? What's the difference between a life coach and a therapist? So today, I'm focusing first on all your questions about it...

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BIG NEWS! We're building a house!

BIG NEWS: Oh Joy! Builds A House!

I can't believe this is actually happening, but I am excited to FINALLY tell you that...we are building a HOUSE! Are we crazy for doing this? Yes! Is this process going to give me 267 ulcers and a head of grey hair? Probably. Is it going to be the project of a lifetime? Heck, yes! Here's how it all began...

We have been living in the same rental since we moved to Los Angeles 8 years ago (before kids, before my husband started his current job, before Oh Joy grew to being more than just me). We only had a few days to find an apartment when we decided to move to LA in 2010 and rented the top floor of a little duplex (with a great little balcony and view of the city) thinking we would eventually move into a real house with a backyard once we had kids. But Bob and I were both building our careers, and we had a really great deal on our rental so we took the time to save money for a house. We had no real rush to buy anything and no desire take on all the responsibilities that come with home ownership. Our place felt just fine with one child. However, once we got pregnant with Coco in 2014, we felt ready to make the leap and do what grown-ups think they should do...buy a house with more space for their growing family.

Four years ago, I wrote this post how we were looking to buy our first house in Los Angeles and how not easy the process was. Los Angeles isn't a cheap place to live, and the prices of homes here are pretty insane. We spent a good year looking while I was pregnant with Coco as that balcony with a great view didn't seem as amazing anymore when all I wanted was a backyard for my kids to run around and play in. As I had mentioned in that blog post, our first house offer got outbid by someone who had ALL CASH (how do you compete with that?). Then, we decided to up our budget a little bit and found another house we liked even more...thinking, "THIS is why that other house didn't work out. We were meant to get this one!" We put an offer on that 2nd house, only to get outbid WAAAAY over our budget. We started looking at fixer uppers that would be in a comfortable budget, but then we'd still need to spend a ton of money on renovations after the fact to make them livable. Feeling deflated, we kept looking and realized to get the moderate-sized house with a flat yard in the neighborhoods we wanted, we would need to increase our budget more than we could afford. No one wants to be house poor, so we were ready to stop the hunt and keep saving so that we could come back with a bigger down payment in another year or two.

THEN, during one of our drives around the neighborhood looking for open houses, we ran into a friend who had just finished building their house. They invited us in to see it, and we were floored. The value of their house when finished was double what it cost them to build it. The thoughts running through our minds as we talked to them were...

"Yes, of course this house is amazing because it's brand new and custom-designed."

"It's always been my dream to build a house!"

"We could never afford to do that now."

"Wait, what? It costs you HALF the price to build a house in Los Angeles then to buy one?"

Our friends, Cleo and McShane from Project M+, who happened to have also designed their own home, set the path for convincing us that if we had the patience, we should build a house instead of buying one. At the same time, a childhood friend of mine, Melissa, had just moved to Los Angeles. She was an architect as well and told me how she was about to begin designing and building her own family's house, too. And I was like..."Wait, what is happening here? How are these people who are still building their careers, like us, able to do this?" Yes, they were both architects and knew what they were doing. But, it turns out that in Los Angeles (unlike most of the country), the real estate prices here are so ridiculously high that it actually cheaper to build a house from scratch then to buy one. Who knew? Now, that does NOT mean it's quicker to build a house because if that was the case, this post would have been posted a lot sooner than today.

So, that was 2014...how it took until now for me to tell you this story and announce that we are actually doing this is....to be continued. We started construction on the house about six months ago, and it will take another year or so until it's done. I'm excited to share details about this ENTIRE process from start to finish and share snippets with you in real time as we go. I'm also so excited that we will be partnering with Architectural Digest's Clever to tell the story on their channels as well over the next year to completion. We'll be providing additional tips and takeaways over there so you'll get a lot of great information. I have learned so much, and it's really so fascinating (both the fun and not-so-fun parts about it). Here's a little peek!

If there is anything in particular you want me to share, please (please!) leave a comment below. Do you want to see photographed posts or video posts? Do you want to see things in a Pinterest board, Instagram, Instagram Stories...all of it? Do tell! This project has been my second job for the last couple years, and I can't wait to tell you everything I've learned. 

BIG NEWS: Oh Joy! Builds A House!

Stay tuned for Part 2 where I will talk about how we found land to build on, and how went about buying it!

{Photos by Lily Glass and video by Jenner Brown 

happy friday + when siblings don't get along...

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One of the most common questions/comments I get on Instagram stories is..."Your kids seem to get along so well! They don't seem to ever fight with each other!" Umm....ha. That is not true AT ALL. They are just like any other set of siblings and do sometimes argue and don't get along. Some days are better than others.

Heather Turgeon and Julie Wright (who wrote my favorite sleep book, The Happy Sleeper) just came out with a parenting book called Now Say This. When I received an advance copy back in December, it came at a time when my kids were starting to play so well together, but also arguing more then ever. Not only did I learn some other amazing parenting techniques from their book that I use everyday with each of my kids, their book also helped me figure out what to do when sibling rivalry does occur. Since the sibling aspect is one area I think a lot of parents struggle with, I asked them to share some tips for us! Take a look at some common questions they often get asked, and I hope this helps some of you parents out there, too...

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let's discuss: dinner for one...

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Last month, I took a quick 36-hour work trip to New York. I had a packed schedule and didn't make any plans to see friends because I didn't know how my days would go and how tired I would be after my day-long meetings. So, one night I needed to eat and went to a nice restaurant for dinner...by myself. I used to dread eating by myself in public and would opt to just stay home instead. I worried people would think I was on a blind date that never showed. Or that I wouldn't know what to do with myself with no one to talk to. But after 39 years on this planet, I just didn't care anymore. I had a lovely dinner out by myself. I people watched...I thought about life. It gave me a chance to really savor the food and know that I didn't have to stay in my hotel room just because I didn't have any social plans with others. And it felt great.

Do you guys go out to dinner by yourself? Would you?

Oh, and PS. Have a great long weekend! We'll see you back here on Tuesday!

{Photo by Lily Glass}

this is 39!

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OMG. I am 39 today! I'm not writing this post just so you'll wish me a Happy Birthday (although I am okay with that, too). But I am writing because I'm sitting here thinking...holy crap, I have one more year to go before 40. My 30's have been the decade that really cemented who I have become as a person and who I want to be in the future. I took my business to the next level, became a mother, and I've become much more confident of myself and less worried about what other people think (my 20's were filled with WAY too much of that!). I've done so much in this past decade, and I have a bunch more things I want to do before I finish it out. While this could become a super long post, I'll keep it short and sweet and just tell you that I really do appreciate those of you who have been following this site for a while. Loyalty is everything to me, and for you to still tune in and care what we have to say and what we're creating over here really does mean so much.

Anyway, without spilling the beans too much...I have some exciting personal projects in the works that I can't wait to share with you. They are really going to be a great way to round out my 30's this upcoming year...and I can't wait to take you along for the ride!

Have a great weekend, all...

{Photo by Morgan Pansing.}